Self love doesn’t stop discrimination
My body is covered in stretch marks, lumps, and bulges. My belly sags to one side. I’m a US 28-32, and over 400 lbs.
None of this makes me worth any less than someone who’s straight sized. I am just as worthy of respect. Just as worthy of happiness, love, compassion, and care.
Living in a fat body, and not being ashamed of my appearance, and finding myself beautiful, doesn’t make me any more brave, or a “confident queen” than a straight sized person who feels the same way with how their body looks.
But fatphobia is systemic, and so my feelings about myself don’t make doctors treat me as they would thin patients. It doesn’t make employers hire me, pay me what I deserve, or give me promotions I’ve earned. My self love doesn’t make police take me seriously if seggually assaulted. Self love, doesn’t cancel out the fact that it’s legal to discriminate against fat people in 49 out of 50 states.
I have lipedema. I have, can, and will gain weight regardless of what I eat, and how much I exercise. It’s painful, and has commonly been misdiagnosed as #fibromyalgia because of this. It also can cause brain fog, hyper mobility, and bruising, which sometimes is misdiagnosed as #ehlersdanlossyndrome , #celiacdisease , #lupus , etc.
Having people demand that I shouldn’t love myself, because I should diet and exercise instead, is not only cruel, but is also completely against science. I can’t diet away my weight. (Fun fact: a lot of people with lipedema actually don’t eat much, and rarely if ever feel hungry) I can’t exercise myself smaller. This is my body regardless of what lifestyle I live, and I have every right to love myself the way I am.
Yes, I’d love to get these painful fibrotic nodules removed, but not because of aesthetic reasons, but because of the pain, brain fog, and flu like symptoms.
I even have a fundraiser (https://linktr.ee/Lilithfury )
so I can fund my surgeries. So if you’re a fatphobe that’s gonna complain about my looks, put your money where your mouth is. 🤷🏻♀️